Ramadan is a month in which we increased our spirituality and strengthen our relationship with the Qur’an. Ramadan can be overwhelming for women, as we strive to balance family, siblings, extended family, work and social obligations. At the same time, we want to increase our ibaadah and spiritual development, and the balance can be very challenging.
Somehow, with lots of du’a, a Ramadan plan and less sleep, many sisters do manage their duties and become more productive in their ibaadah during this blessed month (alhamdulilah!). The important question is, how can we continue to balance our different duties and roles, and continue a high level of ibaadah after Ramadan too?
In this article, I will mention some practical solutions on how to continue our acts of worship after Ramadan, so we consistently feel the infamous Ramadan imaan-high!
Here are a few tips of continuing our Ramadan habits after Ramadan to ensure we remain on that spiritual high:
Our household, work and social obligations still remain after Ramadan. Here are tips to continue our Ramadan habits so we can make the most effective use of our time:
“Feeding fasting people can be fulfilled by a simple one or two course meal rather than a four course one that takes up so much time leading to me being very tired and unproductive”, claims a mum-to-be.
This is a principle we can continue after Ramadan:
Ramadan is a time where sisters make an extra effort to visit the masjid, especially for taraweeh prayers, which instilled the “Ramadan-feeling” into us. Greeting sisters every evening and standing together in prayer are things we may miss after Ramadan, and may make sisters feel lonely once the blessed month is over.
Here are a few things you can do in your community to continue the support network in the masjid after Ramadan:
So, there you have it sisters! Your comprehensive post-Ramadan action plan to ensure that you continue your Ramadan ibaadah, even when the blessed month is over. Comment below with your tips and advice on keeping the spiritual high after Ramadan!
About the Author:
Khafaya Abdulsalam is a mother of four, providing practical parenting workshops, seminars and professional coaching services to Muslim mothers across the globe and empowering Muslimahs to be the mothers they want their kids to see. She aims to take motherhood to the 3rd degree by equipping Muslim mothers with tools, practical tips and techniques on how to be masters of motherhood, raising happy, confident and productive Muslim kids!
Most importantly, Khafayah trains mothers on how to re-discover themselves in order to perform the most important role assigned to them by Allah SWT – Motherhood! Visit her website at http://www.ummuka.com
At ProductiveMuslimah, we believe the ultimate secret to a successful Muslimah is that she strives with sincere intentions and uses all the resources around her to achieve the highest stations in Paradise. We are always looking for the ‘secrets to productivity’ and wanted to explore how some of the Muslim women today manage time effectively and perform the best in all the roles they hold being a mother, wife, daughter, professional, activist and more! Ramadan is an especially important time for sisters to reflect and gain as much reward and forgiveness as possible from Allah . So we decided to get some of the ‘Productive Muslimahs’ of our time in the hot seat to find out their top tips and secrets to become a Productive Muslimah!
We are very excited to be joined in this special Ramadan edition by Sister Zohra Sarwari, an international author of ten groundbreaking books, coach to women and children, business coach, entrepreneur, public speaker, mother of 3, and founder of SuperCharge Homeschooling! She is in our ProductiveMuslimah hot seat today, so we asked her to tell us her secrets on how she manages to stay productive during Ramadan while juggling her family, her work and her writing!
1) We’re very excited to have you share your Secrets as a Productive Muslimah so thank you for joining us! First, tell us who inspires you to be a Productive Muslimah?
Bismillah, wal Hamdullilah. Jazak Allaah Khairan for having me here and for thinking of me as a Productive Muslimah. Alhamdullilah, my inspiration is my Lord. I love Him so much, and am thankful for guidance and everything else He has given me.
2) Masha Allah you currently home-school your children and have set up a fantastic website, full of resources to help parents with homeschooling (SuperCharge Homeschooling). What was the deciding factor that led you to homeschooling your children? What benefits have you seen that could not be achieved with regular schooling?
The deciding factor for me was when I learned what would benefit me after I die. Since my children would be one of those cases, I needed to invest in them so that they may benefit me when I need it most insha’Allaah. Benefits I have seen are alhamdullilah many. Better tarbiyah, praying 5 times a day, fasting the month of Ramadan and other days, learning the Qur’aan, and wanting to memorize it in sha Allah. Also graduating from secular studies early in sha Allah.
3) What advice would you give to mothers who find the idea of homeschooling daunting? Is it accessible to all?
Lol….homeschooling is TOUGH. I will not lie and say it is super easy. As with anything else you must put in the time and effort to achieve the results that you want. However, my secret ingredient is making du’aa to Allah and asking Him for help in whatever areas that I need. Alhamdullilah that is how I have made it this far, believing in my dream of raising righteous children for the sake of Allah, and asking Him help doing it. Without Allah, I could not have done it. Alhamdullilah. (All praise truly belongs to Him.)
4) Alhamdulilah, the blessed month of Ramadan is upon us. How do you manage teaching your children during this busy time?
During this beautiful month we cutback on the dunya studies, and focus more on fasting, reading the Qur’an with meaning (tafsir), and learning something new for our deen. In sha Allah this year’s goal is to memorize Allah’s names and attributes; while we have done some of them in the past, this year I really want us to know it inside out in sha Allah. Again, all with the help of Allah .
5) For mothers, Ramadan tends to be a month spent living in the kitchen, and when they’re not there then they’re engaged with some other household responsibilities. How can they make time for themselves to be spiritually productive and to feel that they have made the most of productivity during Ramadan?
First of all, the concept of us cooking all day must be deleted especially in this month. We need to make a schedule and write down what we are cooking which days, how long each meal should take, and if we are eating leftovers the next day. We should really try to make it where our meal or meals do not take more than 1 hour each day. I personally like cooking extra and eating leftovers. As much as I love my family and friends, I do not like to attend iftar parties, as it will take away from my ibadah time. This month we have no time to waste, and Allah knows best. Also while cooking they [sisters] could listen to the Qur’an or a lecture so that they may be rewarded that way as well in sha Allah.
6) It is important of course, to get the whole family involved in activities during Ramadan. How can mothers work with children to instill an understanding and spirit of Ramadan within them?
By making a schedule of exactly what they are doing each day, and what their goals for Ramadan are. Ramadan should be fun for kids, and they should get rewarded for even the small deeds that they do.
7) What is your role as a wife within your family during Ramadan, and how has this helped your family’s overall productivity?
My role is to make sure I wake up early and cook and get food ready for everyone, to inspire them through out the day, reward them here and there, and share our schedule daily so that we are all on the same page. This way they see the goals we have and they want to achieve it as well in sha Allah.
8) Jazakillah khayr for all of your advice Sister Zohra. Can you give us any last words of advice to mothers so they can enjoy a productive Ramadan? Any advice, tips, something that worked with you, anything behind the scenes, something you tried last Ramadan that worked wonders?
I would say make your intention to make each Ramadan as if it is your last one. Think of each day as one you may not be here for next year. Plan accordingly, be happy, and be SUPER patient as shaytaan is locked up! Make a schedule and stick with it. Ask your kids to share any knowledge that they obtain during dinner time. Make Ramadan about fasting, not about eating. How you behave and act is what your kids will learn in sha Allah! Jazak Allah Khairan!
Well thank you to Sister Zohra for the wonderful advice and practical tips – there you have it sisters! Let us know your thoughts and comment below, and don’t forget to look out for our next instalment of ‘Secrets of a Productive Muslimah’!
About the Author:
Zohra Sarwari is an author of 13 books, author of 3 homeschooling curriculums, international speaker, entrepreneur, publisher, and teacher to 3 kids. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology, a Masters Degree in Business Administration, and she is currently taking classes for a Bachelors Degree in Islamic Studies. Her passion is teaching Muslims to become the best they can be, in sha Allah, while teaching non-Muslims about the true Islam. She spends her time teaching her kids, going on speaking tours, coaching Muslims, and working on her curriculums. She prays that within 2-3 years time, she is able to have a full online school for kids all over the world in sha Allah. She has been seen on CBS, FOX News, and many other TV channels. She has also been interviewed in many magazines, newspapers, and radio shows. She speaks at many of the best colleges and universities mashaAllah. Her 3 children have authored 11 books together, mashaAllah.
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Assalamualiakum (peace be upon you!)
I just wanted to send a quick message to all the non-Muslims that follow this blog. If you ever have any questions, please feel free to ask and I’ll always do my best to answer them.
And this really goes for anyone. I know sometimes it takes me a while to get to questions but that’s just because I want to be sure I give the right information to the best of my ability.
So, as usual, my ask box is always open. No question is too big or too little for me to answer or to try and find you the answer to.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful and blessed Ramadan. :)
Duaa for Forgiveness
ALLAHUMMA INNEE ASTAGHFIRUKA LIKULLI D’AMBIN JARAA BIHEE I’LMUKA FIYYA WA A’LAYYA ILAA AAKHIRI U’MREE BI-JAMEE-I D’UNOOBEE LI-AWWALIHAA WA AAKHIRIHAA WA A’MADIHAA WA KHAT A-IHAA WA QALEELIHAA WA KATHEERIHAA WA DAQEEQIHAA WA JALEELIHAA WA QADEEMIHAA WA H’ADEETHIHAA WA SIRRIHAA WA A’LAANIYATIHAA WA JAMEE-I MAA ANAA MUD’NIBUHOO WA ATOOBU ILAYKA WA AS-ALUKA AN TUS’ALLIYA A’LAA MUH’AMMADIN WA AALI MUH’AMMADIN WA AN TAGHFIRA LEE JAMEE-A, MAA AH’S’AYTU MIM MAZ’AALIMIL I’BAADI QIBALEE FA-INNA LI-IBAADIKA A’LAYYA H’UQOOQAN WA ANAA MURTAHINUM BIHAA TAGHFIRUHAA KAYFA SHI-TA WA ANNAA SHIA-TA YAA ARH’AMAR RAAH’IMEEN
O Allah, I seek forgiveness for every sin, I committed, about which, of course, You know inside and out, from the beginning to the end of my life, whether committed deliberately or intentionally, few or many, abstruse or manifest, old or new, secretly carried out or openly done; and for whatever wrong I have done I turn repentant unto You and beseech You to bless Muhammad and the children of Muhammad and forgive all my unjust acts I did to wrong the people (because they have rights which I have to recognize and fulfill) but You have full authority to forgive those wrongdoings whenever and howsoever You wish, O the most merciful.
Her parents are severely alarmed at her first incident of accidental magic, when she’s a baby and summons the apple slice right out of her distracted mother’s hand. They read Quran over her and throughout the house to ward against djinn, but the accidental magic continues, so the write ayat-ul qursi and put it in a locket for her to wear to protect her from the evil eye and sihr.
Nothing stops, and since she doesn’t act possessed, they decide its just a miracle from God, makes sure she reads Quran and does her prayers, and make dua, and she grows up well-adjusted and slightly worried about this ability of her. Her parents make sure she doesn’t get a big head and think she’s a saint or something.
Then she turns 11, and McGonagall comes to tell them about Hogwarts. The parents are sceptical and demand some kind of proof that this woman isn’t about to spirit their daughter away. McGonagall is taken aback that the issue for these Muggles isn’t the magic so much as the ‘invisible boarding school we can’t tell is safe or not’.
So she gathers other Muggle parents to testify that their daughter is going to a real and proper school, and that’s that, she’s off to Hogwarts. She gets sorted into Ravenclaw (but almost into Slytherin for all that ambition she has).
Through the years, though, things she never considered comes up. Like how she’s basically a vegetarian at Hogwarts in her first year cause the house-elves don’t know about halaal meat, or how everyone looks at her funnily when in Third Year she gets special permission from Dumbledore to break from classes for prayer (and she learns to be quiet for Fajr when her roommates complain).
Or how Madame Pomfrey gets worried about her fasting in Ramadan, and the house-elves are insulted when she won’t eat their food until she explains, and then stuff her full of food half an hour before Fajr and at Maghrib.
Or that she takes to healing the muggle way because not all those potions have ingredients that she can ingest, and she talks to a sheikh for advice on if salamanders and bat eyes are actually halaal.
And then its a struggle to be the only hijabi in the school, and she makes friends with the Baron so he stops Peeves from trying to pull it off all the time.
And how annoying it is when the only holidays that get celebrated are Christian ones, and that’s when she makes friends with Anthony Goldstein, who agrees that there should be more religious diversity so he can really enjoy Hannukah at school.
She gets in trouble for saying her spells in Arabic, to the consternation of all her professors who don’t understand the language and insist that its dangerous if they can’t govern her spell-casting.
So she starts a duelling club, and Padma joins her and casts spells in Punjabi, and Anthony who does his spells in Hebrew (they’re not making up spells, just changing the language, and isn’t it funny that the spells are always a teensy bit different?), and others trickle in, and new magic gets practiced under the supervision of a Ministry hire who encourages them and speaks sixteen different languages.
Then people claim she’s a frigid freak because she keeps turning down boys who want to date her (even though she really likes them), until she puts the gossipers in the Hospital Wing, and then no one says anything after that.
She worries about the practical non-existence of Muslims in Wizarding Britain, and will that affect the jobs she can get, because wizards and witches are a bit funny about religion?
In honor of Hajj being in this month, the Duaa of the Month will be one to day when you are beginning your Hajj. :)
Dua after taking Ghusl – Wearing Ehram
BISMILLAHI WABILLAHI ALLAHUMMAJALHU FII NURAN WATAHUZAN WAHUZAN WAAMNAN MIN KULLI KHWAFIN WASHIFAAN MIN KULLI DAAIN WASUQMIN. ALLAHUMMA TAHHIRNII WATAHII QALBII WASHRIHLII SADRII WAAJRI ALAA LISAANII MAHABBATAKA WAMIDHATAKA WASSANAAA ALAIKA FAINNAHU LAA QUWWATA LII ILLA BIKA WAQAD ALIMTU ANNAQIWAAMA DIINII ALTASLIIMU LAKA WALITTIBAAU LISUNNATI NABIYYIKA SALAWAATUKA ALAIHI WAALIHI.
I commence by the name of Allah and seek help from Him. O Allah render this ghusl an illumination for me and that it may purify me, protect me from all fears and be a cure for all ills. O Allah! Purify me and my heart, broaden my chest and that my tongue may utter words of love, adoration and praise for You as there is no strength for me but You and I know that my religion is submission to You and following the practices of Your prophet, may Your peace be on him.
muslismafashionistasteph said: Salam :D how are you? I wish for you the very best, especially during this special month. I have a small favor to ask and that is whether you would be able to please participate in and spread the word about my blog page "letters of love", which is about writing letters to children who are either sick, orphaned, and/or experiencing extremely difficult circumstances in several parts of the world. Thank you very much,jazaakallahu 5ayran :D shukran
wa alaikum salam!
I’m doing well, alhamdulilah. Eid Mubarak to you and your family!
please check out her Letters of Love and participate if you can and inshaAllah I will as well. :)
my post-ramadan goals:
what are some of your post-Ramadan goals/plans?
This is the duaa that the Prophet (SAWW) told us to say before breaking our fast.
ذَهَبَ الظَّمَأُ وَ ابْتَلَّتِ الْعُرُوقُ، وَ ثَبَتَ الأجْرُ إنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ
dhahabadh dhama-u wabtallatil ‘urooqu, wa tha-batal ajru in-shaa Allah
The thrist is gone, the veins are moistened and the reward is confirmed, if Allah [Ta’ala] wills.
This month’s dua comes from the Quran and is about patience in the face of disbelievers.
وَلَمَّا بَرَزُوا لِجَالُوتَ وَجُنُودِه ِِ قَالُوا رَبَّنَا أَفْرِغْ عَلَيْنَا صَبْرا ً وَثَبِّتْ أَقْدَامَنَا وَانْصُرْنَا عَلَى الْقَوْمِالْكَافِ
Wa Lammā Barazū Lijālūta Wa Junūdihi Qālū Rabbanā ’Afrigh`Alaynā Şabrāan Wa Thabbit ‘Aqdāmanā Wa Anşurnā `Alá Al-Qawmi Al-Kāfirīna
And when they advanced to meet Jalût (Goliath) and his forces, they invoked: “Our Lord! Pour forth on us patience, set our feet firm and make us victorious over the disbelieving people.” (Al-Baqarah 2:250)
Lesson One: Introduction
The prophet guaranteed that if we took the knowledge from the first three generations of the Muslims then we will be protected
This course will help us to learn to follow the basics of Islam as taught by them
What this course will cover
A historical development of Islamic law (shariah or fiqh)
what we believe in
and why spirituality is a part of Islam
what were the core elements that the companions taught the next generation
how did the scholars of the time codify the Islamic sciences
the Hadeeth of Jibreel
how to learn, where do you take your knowledge from, and why
The only learning is that which leads us to a better understanding of Allah and therefore closer to Him
I don’t usually do this.. But Im going to any outlet possible to help. i have a dear friend who is in a VERY very negatively desperate situation I would be very grateful if you could send some DUAS her way. I would be forever grateful Jazak Allah khairun in advance for anyone that does this for me