The other day, I read an article about hijab where a woman was chastising other women for wearing abayas with sleeves that are too tight to make proper wudhu.
Islam is the religion of ease. There’s no reason to berate someone because their sleeves are too narrow - there are other solutions:
Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab from ‘Abbad ibn Ziyad, a descendant of al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba from his father from al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, went to relieve himself during the expedition of Tabuk. Mughira said, “I went with him, taking water. Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came back and I poured out the water for him. He washed his hands and then went to push his arms out of the sleeves of his garment, but could not do so because of their narrowness. So he brought them out from underneath his garment…..
We make things too complicated, wallahi.
One way to quit minor addicting sins like swearing, listening to haram music, misbehaving, letting anger take you over, etc. that I’ve implemented and it works for me is:
When you do wudhu for dhuhr, make the intention and a commitment to yourself that you will not commit that sin up until the time when you make wudhu for the next salah. And continue on from that wudhu to the next.
Short term goals to reach your long term goals is the key to success in making any goal a reality.