" من صلى علي صلاة واحدة صلى الله عليه عشر صلوات وحطت عنه عشر خطيئات ورفعت له عشر درجات "
Anonymous said: I have a question. My husband is from Pakistan and he has family over there. All his sisters are married and doing well as well as there kids. But my husband has started to send so much stuff to his sisters kids. Now I don't mind that at all. But I have a aunt who is not doing well and she has two little girls. But my husband doesn't even want to send them anything cause he hasn't seen them. We get into lots of fights. I think overall this is unfair. What should I do?
Hello there. salaam.
Ok well is this a dual income household? I don’t have a lot of advice to give in this situation because there’s so many different variables to factor in.
Maybe you need to tell him to be more fair towards both families being that they both are going through a hard time. No wrong can come out of it, only Barakah.
You two are sharing your lives, that includes finances. Perhaps calmly approaching it would stop it from escalating into an argument.
حَسْبُنَا اللهُ وَنِعْمَ الْوَكِيلُ
Allah is sufficient for us, and how fine a trustee (He is).
ḥasbun-allaahu wa ni‛mal-wakeel
Sources: Al-Bukhari 5/172.
Anonymous said: his views on religion and the like, everything else about him is so interesting to me. He is active, extremely independent, sweet, and the only one who can make me laugh. It's like I really feel alive around him, something I have never felt before. He likes me and respects my religion but I know he would never assimilate. I know that the Muslim guy I have now is a wonderful match for me; but sometimes I'm scared of doing the "safe" thing. I know as a Muslim it is haraam to marry a non believer-
This is part two. I answered already
-Marlene of RLMG team
Anonymous said: Salaams - I'm coming seeking some relationship advice, seeing as the reasoning behind some of my decisions has been Islam. I'm a 21 year old Indian Muslim girl, raised in the US. I have a.. "boyfriend" I suppose, but moreso a future husband who I met in college. My parents know about him and approve, and vice versa. He is a dependable guy, trusthworthy, loyal, and practices Islam the same level as me. However I have this guy friend, who is American, white, and Atheist. While I strongly disagree
Theres a few things to consider before making this decision. One thing, is you have to chose one as soon as possible because you’re kind of tethering between the two.
Also you should weigh the pros and cons(which it seems you’ve already started) with your friend; does he respect Islam?
Do you think you’ll feel like you just settled with the Muslim guy and still have a bit of longing for the second guy?
Would he be ok with your kids being raised muslim?
Would you be willing to live with a non muslim? Him being Atheist makes it different than if he was Cristian or Baptist etc… For the obvious reasons.
I’ve been seeing alot of interfaith relationships that are just as successful as full Muslim/Cristian/Jewish/etc relationships.
You have to think about how much are you willing to sacrifice and if it will be worth it.
Now the first guy you mentioned seems like you can have a very successful marriage and wonderful life together. I just feel like you have more feelings for your friend.
You have to be with who you think will make you happy.
Who will support and love you and will make you laugh when you’re at your lowest.. Eh this is a tricky situation but
I have a personal experience I don’t want to publicly share with this situation and if you wouldn’t mind coming off anon, I would love to discuss this further :)
If not, I really hope I may have helped Insha’Allah.
Good luck and may Allah guide you :)
-Marlene of the RLMG Team.
It is written. No matter what you’ve been through, it´s written. No matter what you know, it´s written. No matter what you do, it´s written. Trust Him.